#melwritesanote | hello lovely


Hi guys! I think it's time I did some explaining.

Back in 2009 I started this blog. It was a space where I could share creative things, inspirational things and some cute outfits. Slowly it began to evolve and became a little home on the internets for me. I've met so many incredible and inspirational women on this platform and I count myself so very blessed. I love Pie N' the Sky.

For the last year or so, I've been struggling with what I want this space to be. In fact, I still am at a place of indecision, but felt I owed you some sort of explanation for my long absences. The truth is I'm busy. We're all busy, and I have a lot of  things on my plate that are very important to me. I've had to remove a number of things that I care about, to be able to hold on to this, because as I said, it is so near and dear to my heart - it's our space! I am currently working full time, in grad school, leading worship for our youth ministry, running the PS shop, being a wife, and trying to be a decent friend, sister and daughter. I feel like everything I am currently giving my time to deserves my attention, including Pie N' the Sky.

So, what does this all even mean? Well, I've started to dream again. I've started to reimagine this space and what it can be used for, and lets just say I'm pretty pumped. You will be seeing fewer of certain types of posts, and I'll be adding new ones as well.

I want this to be a place where women can find answers, inspiration, rest, and maybe sometimes a good laugh. During my first year of starting this blog, I received an email from a reader, who said she read the blog every morning and she loved being able to start her days off with the inspiration Pie N' the Sky provided. That comment has stuck with me, because at the heart of it all, that has always been my goal. I think about blogs I read, sites I visit, or people I follow and they all have that same thing in common - they inspire me, they move me, they make me think differently, they uplift me... Does this place do that for you? If the answer is no, then I hope that will change in these next months. If the answer is yes, then yay! It's about to get even more inspiring, soon!

I can't promise that I will post more, but it will definitely be more consistent. Additionally, the content you read will be more intentional and purposeful.

*pause*

Before I continue, can I just say thank you? I realized that I probs should have said this earlier in the post, but seriously thank you. If you've been a reader for years, months or days... thank you! It means so much to know that my voice is reaching others who feel like I feel, facing similar situations, or share the same style as me! It's good to do life with others, so thanks for doing life with me!

Back to the news!

So, if you follow me on instagram then you know I occasionally share some postive or encouraging posts with the hashtag #melwritesanote. I thought it would be fun to implement the same dynamic on the blog, but with a bit more depth and thought. Be on the lookout for other new series! I'm excited for what's to come and I can't wait to hear your feedback!


xo. mel

A YEAR OF GRATITUDE :: PT2



Lately I've been spending a lot of time thinking about the people that God has placed in my life. While some have only been in my life for a few months, others I have known for years. As I get older I understand more, the importance of recognizing seasons in my life. I believe there are seasonal friends - those who you need in your life for a specific moment, but aren't necessarily there for the long haul. Then there are those who become family, who stick with you through thick and thin, who know every bit about you and love you all the same. I realize that both groups should be honored and appreciated to the fullest. A simple thank you can go such a long way. An encouraging word can be bring life, to an otherwise dead situation. A reminder of appreciation can bring hope to someone's heart. You have the power to make a difference in someone's life, with your thoughts, with your words, and with your actions. Here's to making sure the people in our lives know that they are valued!
 
xo. mel
 
FOOTNOTE :: you can read more about my year of gratitude here. I would love to here how this experience has been for you so far; feel free to leave a comment below or email me with your stories!


 


A YEAR OF GRATITUDE



I've been reading the book Make it Happen by Laura Casey, and I have been loving every bit of it! One of the focuses is on intentions. This word "intention" has stuck with me over these last few months. I want to be intentional with my days- the things I do, the activities I give time and energy to, the relationships I pursue, etc. Moreover, I want to create a meaningful presence. If I were to pack up my bags and leave this state, drop off social media and cut all relationship ties... would anyone notice? Would people miss me? Would I have impacted their lives enough for them to care? eeesh! I didn't mean for that to be a dark thought (sorry), just one of introspection. I just want to enrich the lives of those around me. 

One of the initiatives I'm taking this year is to show my gratitude towards those I love; who have impacted (or are still impacting) my life. I've decided to start writing handwritten cards of thanks. It's a simple expression, but if you've ever received a handwritten note, then you understand the weight of its sentiment. So, in an effort to show more gratitude, I want to challenge you to a Year of Gratitude! What does this entail? Well let me tell you! Every week, you will choose one person. For that week, expend a little more energy to make them feel special and loved - whether it's a shoutout on Instagram, posting an old photo of the two of you, or a special birthday wish on Facebook, remind them that they're still on your radar. Then, at the end of the week, sit down and write them a letter. Maybe it's someone you've looked up to, or someone who has always supported your dreams, maybe it's someone who has been a great friend, or someone who may not know how much they mean to you. Whoever it is, show gratitude to their existence in your life. This will not only build them up and speak life into them, but I assure you, it'll make you feel pretty great too!

I thought it would be really great to show you some possible ideas for hand lettering your envelopes as you get ready to send them out! I found the sweetest stationary sets in the Tiny Prints personalized gifts section! I loved that I could personalize the stationary and make them my own! Another fun bonus is that each card has a really pretty pattern on the back - I love how they turned out!


 
O P T I O N  O N E // Bold (with address)

This option is so much fun because it's such a statement piece! How exciting would it be to find this envelope shining in your pile of bills, newsletters and catalogs?! You can create this fun banner in multiple ways - just have fun with it!

This stationary is called Fresh Fancy, and it's actually a part of a really sweet birthday collection. I think it's meant for a child, but the balloon reminded me of the balloons we had at our wedding, so I went for it; too perfect to pass up! This card would be perfect to express thanks, congratulations or gratitude!



O P T I O N  T W O // Simple (with address)

I like this option for a more simplified and sophisticated look. This lettering took much less time and I think it can be accomplished by someone at any level!

This stationary is called On the Breeze and I think it's even prettier in person! I love the trim, and the fact that I got to personalize it was an added bonus. My favorite part is still the fun pattern on the back and this one is especially perfect because it's gold! This card would be perfect for sharing a sentiment that requires more explanation, since there's much more blank space to write what's on your heart!



O P T I O N  T H R E E // Classic (no address)

This option is better suited for someone who lives close to home, that you could hand deliver your letter to. A large majority of those I have written letters to, have been women in my workplace and church, so this is a great option for me! I do have family and friends who live out of state though, so the options above are obviously better suited for them. I like this option because you can have as much fun as you want with your lettering! Get creative and use up as much space as you want!

This stationary is called Dazzling Pattern, in Red Lantern. I decided to personalize this one with one of my favorite scripture verses, "God is within her, she will not fail." This is such an empowering verse, so I think it would be great for a letter about encouragement or thankfulness!

 
I had so much fun working on my first batch of gratitude letters! Sometimes we assume that people just know how much they mean to us, but even if they do, it sure is nice to be reminded! I know that the women (or men) that you send these cards to, will feel loved, cherished and empowered to continue being who they are!


When it comes to hand-lettering your envelopes, get creative! You can use different color pens, watercolors, or an assortment of different colored envelopes! Have fun with it and let your personality shine through! If you decide to participate in the Year of Gratitude, let me know! You can leave a link below in the comments or use the hashtag #yearofgratitude when posting to Instagram or Twitter. Love y'all so much! Have a wonderful weekend!

xo. mel

W E A R :: Violets







details :: dress & hat/free people, tights/target, boots/sam edelman


God will often gives me short phrases throughout my day,when I am praying or giving in to worry or stress. These words help me to refocus and gain perspective. I usually write them on sticky notes and place them on my computer or desk as a reminder. I'm actually pulling them out fo my drawer now to write them down because I thought I'd share a few of them with each of you; in case you find yourself in a place in need of encouragement of inspiration.
 
Create a meaningful presence - I don't want to be easily forgotten. I want to be missed.
 
When I feel like there's nothing I can do, it means that He can now do everything - this one was from today.
 
Don't Compare. Don't Compete. Don't Complain.
 
"What if I say something wrong?" "What if you say nothing at all?" - this was actually a conversation I had with God; wrestling with whether or not I should reach out to a friend to let her know what I felt like God wanted her to know. Sometimes saying nothing is much worse than saying something "the wrong way".
Change is inevitable. Embrace the change. - definitely living in this season!
 
Unrelenting focus on God.
 
What in your life truly makes you feel "good enough". - great question to ask yourself to help you evaluate where your head is at and what you place your priorities in.
 
Where you are willing to lead, I am willing to follow.
 
True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. - this one got me good!
 
When you rush, you forget who you are and whose you are. - I struggle with "being still" anyone else?
 
 
Hope these give some of you a boost of encouragement! Do any of you post notes throughout the day? If so, I would love to hear some of your thoughts or phrases that help you get through each day; share in the comments below!
 
xo. melisa


T I P S + A D V I C E :: thirty ways to a better a day


Sure, we all have bad days but we do ourselves a disservice when we allow the bad days to get the best of us. Giving in to a bad day is simply a waste of precious hours you could be using to do something incredible. So, in order to battle the bad days, here's a list of thirty ways to have a better day.

Call up an old friend
Pet a dog
Read a magazine
Eat some chocolate
Go for a run
Light a candle
Say hi to a stranger
Twirl in your dress
Write something down with a permanent marker
Open up your bible
Disconnect
Think of your best day
Turn on your favorite song
Go to Target. Walk around. Breathe.
Give someone a hug
Write down five things you're good at
Give someone a compliment
Watch this video
Drink some chai
Take a selfie
Paint your nails
Take a bath
Buy an unneeded beauty item
Talk
Go to a yoga class
High-five a friend
Dream of a perfect day
Learn a new joke
Roll your windows down and dance while driving
Smile

I know life can get hard. I understand that sometimes it's easier to call it a day and shut the door and wait for tomorrow. I know that life is worth the struggle though. So in the midst of the bad days and terrible moments, take a step back and try to make it better. If for no other reason than your sanity. You can do it! Here's to a better day!


xo. melisa

S A Y


Forgive me for a moment, while I air out some of my current frustrations with the world. What happened to loving ourselves? When did it become so normal to not be ourselves? What if we stopped judging ourselves and putting the blame on others? Because that's what happens isn't it? We say that others will find us repulsive if we don't wear makeup, or others will look down on us if we're not dressed a certain way. But that's mostly just talk and the root of it is in our heads. 

What if we started to own our face; the one we were born with, the one that resembles our mother's and her mother's. What if we learned to love it, short eyelashes, dark circles, sparse eyebrows and all. What if we looked in the mirror and saw all that was right, instead of all that is wrong. What if we stepped out the door with courage and boldness, not worried of how we would be perceived, but insisting that the world begin to see us for who we truly are.

What if we decided we had had enough and this became our new way of life. Would there be fires and panic? Would the world soldier on? Yes, it would do just that. And women from all around the world would lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. Comparison would no longer be an issue, and insecurity would no longer be a way of life. 

I understand that this is no small feat, but it is a goal. One that I believe we should all seek to achieve. I believe in a day where women will love themselves and not be accused of being conceited. I believe there will be a day when beauty is not measured by numbers of height and weight, but by the smiles she gives and the kindness she shares. I believe in a world where women look different and it's not just accepted, but it's applauded. Where you can look at yourself with excitement in knowing that you are not like any other out there; that you are you and that is not simply enough, but it is everything. 

I'm no longer buying into the ideal. Because "ideally", I would not fit into a specific size, or have hair a certain length, or wear a certain brand, but "ideally" I would simply learn to love myself the way I am. Every day you have the choice to be swayed by the opinions of others, thus hiding yourself under excuses - "oh it's just a bad hair day", "I didn't have enough time to get ready", "I didn't get a lot of sleep last night" - or, you can own up to who you are. We are fatally flawed, but it's our flaws that make us so perfect - they set us apart and make us unique. Without the very things we seek to rid ourselves of, we become less and less. 

Stop shrinking ladies. Stop saying you're not enough. Stop forcing yourself to stay quiet. Stop hating yourself. Love yourself. Stand up straight. Wear the clothes you feel great in. Speak your mind. Have an opinion. Share your views. Seek opportunities. You are worthy and deserving of a beautiful life. Stop believing that you are small and insignificant. You are more. You are more than what you do on a daily basis. You have more voice than you let yourself use. You have more personality than you let yourself share. You are not defined by your looks, your wardrobe, your pay or the car you drive. You are more. You are already who you want to be, you simply have to give yourself the permission to be you. 

And that's all I have to say for now.


xo. melisa

BE WELL :: define your year


" I T ' S   O F T E N   T H E   S M A L L   T H I N G S   T H A T   N O   O N E   S E E S   T H A T   R E S U L T S   I N   T H E   B I G   T H I N G S   T H A T  
 E V E R Y O N E   W A N T S  "

CRAIG GROESCHEL


I heard this quote the other day when Elisha and I were listening to his sermon. I haven't been able to get it off my mind and I love how it's made me start to see this year. If we can make small changes throughout our year, they will begin to reshape our lives and ultimately make a big difference. Seems pretty basic, right?

Well, I've decided to take the challenge and furthermore, define this year with one word; shift. I chose shift for several reasons. First off, I've had some good years and some pretty rotten ones, but I feel like I'm come to this place where I've been through the fire and God has been refining me. I feel as though I know who I want and should be, and I'm no longer leaps away, but in need of a ton of tiny adjustments. In my mind I imagine a rock covered in tiny rough edges, this year I want to smooth those edges out. I don't feel as though i'm headed down a terrible path or anything, but I do think the path could stand to be straighter (it always can). I believe little shifts in how I think, what I say and what I do, will make a big difference. Straightening up in one area, shifting my way of perceiving situations and others, stepping out of the way for God to move… these are just a few things that will help me to Shift, this year. So, instead of resolutions, lets pick a word - a word that will inspire, encourage, motivate and help us not only to accomplish goals, but to become better women. Write it down, stick it on your mirror, make it your wallpaper, get it in your head and in your heart. This year I'm going to shift.

Are you on board?! What's your focus going to be on this year? Share your word with us in the comments below!


xo. melisa

S A Y


This question has been plaguing me as of late; "what makes you happy?". What makes you come alive? Is it being alone with your thoughts, or in a crowded room of loved ones? Is it doing absolutely nothing still in your pjs, or going on an adventure - running or hiking through the woods? Is it in a conversation or a moment at all? No, for me I think it's a state of mind. I think it's when my passion is ignited, that I find myself most alive - when I'm doing the very things that set me apart and make my insides feel whole. It's when I'm singing, or sharing the love of Christ -  It's when I'm laughing so hard I cry, or designing something that moves me - doodling and making nonsense into something lovely through words in a post - it's all of the above. I am happiest when my passion is being fulfilled.
What makes you come alive??


xo. mel

#runforboston


In reflecting on yesterday's events which took place in Boston, my heart was grieved for those directly affected. I felt all too familiar feelings of when I heard news of the 9/11 attack and realized that although this was not at the same level, this attack would forever change our lives. 

When I think of acts of hate or violence, my initial thought is "humanity sucks". And while that may be true of some, or most, at times, one thing (and only this one thing) that I love about tragedy is that it strengthens us and unifies those who are affected by it. There is so much pride I have for my country, but in moments when I feel we are vulnerable and weak, I find myself even more confident in our ability to come together and be stronger than we ever were. 

After hearing the news yesterday, I thought, "What can I do? How can I show that I care? How can I somehow carry some of the burden , of the pain inflicted on my people?". I thought of sending out a tweet, something like "Deeply saddened by the events of today and my prayers are with Boston." or changing my facebook photo with a thoughtful phrase of some sort. I knew that although, however heartfelt my intentions were, those acts would not change the people around me and honestly would have little affect on myself. I wanted to feel the weight of this tragedy and not just for that day, but have it mark my life in some way. I knew I needed to do more.

So, I've chosen to run. I'm not usually a runner and in fact I rarely enjoy it. But, I thought what better way to honor pain, then to feel a little pain myself - obviously in a much different capacity. In honor of those who are no longer able to run, I will run. The Mr. and I have committed to a goal of one mile a day, for a total of 179 miles - one mile for each person who has fallen victim to this cruel act.

I know this may seem silly to some and you may think, "What is this going to accomplish?" and to that I would say, "probably nothing for you, but it'll change my life.". It will help me to get my eyes off of myself and onto others, hopefully sending a positive encouragement to whomever may read this. And honestly, doing something, is better than doing nothing. 

I believe we should all feel the weight of this attack on our people and our country. My way is simply to sacrifice my time and energy to run on their behalf. It may not affect the world, but it'll allow the event to affect my world.

Boston, we see you, we love you, and we're lifting you up.


xo. m